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Living in different prefectures we never would have met without the show.” “One big difference I’ve found is that there are fewer places here in Japan where it’s seemly to approach women.

In my experience, most Japanese men would label the challenges caused by having a NJ wife ‘mendokusai’ (*a pain in the rear).” “In the end, Japanese women are just women as well. Usually there’s no initiative to approach men, like for example in Germany. Starting with a completely different meaning of ‘love’ in Japan, followed by the concept of ‘honne’ (本音: real feelings) and “tatemae” (建前: what she’ll tell you) to name just a few. Be prepared for a lot of disappointment.” “A lot of Japanese dudes are thinking that gaijin women are just too strong for them and that these women wouldn’t fit into the typical role of a woman in a typical Japanese marriage.

And if a Japanese woman approaches you as a gaijin, just run as fast as you can! Well, I’ll tell you foreign ladies a secret: A lot of disappointed male gaijin are just waiting for a chance with you! He says about himself that he’s a rather introverted person who wouldn’t just walk up to a Japanese woman, throwing the following at her: “Konnichiwa, nice stockings, wanna go out?

I never found it easy to ‘get’ a Japanese woman, then again, my fiancé and I met on a Japanese TV show for the express purpose of finding someone to marry.

The modern version of the omiai (arranged marriage) seems to be working quite well for us.

” However, he also states that it’s far less intimidating to approach a Japanese woman than a non-Asian woman: “There’s no real penalty for screwing up.

I’ve never had a Japanese woman snap at me for trying to approach her, but I have in America!

They’ll actually say ‘white men only’ or ‘no black men please,’ from time to time which is enough to turn your stomach.

But I guess you can say at least they’re upfront about their preferences.” “It might seem so in the beginning, but eventually you come to realize that most of those troubles you were blaming on cultural differences were really just a result of your having not done due diligence (and who hasn’t been victimized by their libido’s tendency to takeover when a pretty face and lovely assets are involved, or rushed into something questionable to escape loneliness?

When approaching women, guys often are afraid of being embarrassed or publicly rejected. If the woman isn’t interested, or doesn’t understand you (for those who don’t know any Japanese yet), she’ll just ignore you or walk away.

You can simply blame it on the language disconnect and move on.” “Sometimes you don’t have to approach at all.

For my part, living on a small island just made things more difficult.

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