Dating vs boyfriend and girlfriend
Bottom line, with reference to your area of interest OP, never assume anything each of you say means the same thing, until you verify that it does.There has never been any such thing as a truly authoritative source for the meanings of any word.Part of me feels there's no difference since we act like BF/GF; however, there seems to be a distinction made during conversations with my....well, the guy I'm dating exclusively.
For instance, during conversation, he might say "I like to do XYZ with my girlfriend..the girl I'm dating..."In the big scheme of things, it's not a big deal - but I am curious. No reason to bring it up if things are going well and there isn't a concern that he's seeing other people anyways. Or did he say or do something to make you think he isn't as serious as you are?
Before I ask him his thoughts, I am looking for opinions on whether you guys make this distinction yourselves. Holy crap that's a whole lot of mess tied up with the definition of labels. I've had the discussion many times but to be honest I don't think I've ever actually used the term "mutually exclusive" outside of these message boards. Talk things out with him I treat those as the same thing..
Every woman I met also had more or less the same idea about that as I did. It is also possible to be bf/gf without being exclusive if two people are into that.
Sounds to me like someone isn't sure what they want. The whole "dating exclusively" does not mean I'd have a girlfriend.
All that that set of labels has to do with, is to identify someone simultaneously by their sex, and by the general kind of relationship that you have with them.
If you are spending time and energy with them, but have no interest in them being any sort of a mate, then they are just called "friend." In fact, I suggested to my sons, that they could help ME avoid confusion when they talk about their female acquaintances, if they would use "girlfriend" to indicate romantic interest of some sort, and use "friendgirl" to indicate that the gal is literally just a friend. since many people do have more than one boyfriend or girlfriend, the term "dating exclusively" means something entirely different.
I personally see that a boyfriend / girlfriend label as a more committed term.
The gentleman above me I think has similar thoughts to myself, but is rather more talented in explaining them.
If anything, people begin as acquaintances, move to "dating," with "bf/gf" labels being applied after they have established that they no longer have to show ID before asking each other out.
When they then move on to "getting serious," and want to establish exclusivity, then they add that separate label, almost like a Scout Achievement badge, to any existing labels they've already applied.
Who cares what other people do or how they label things ? but I could see how someone might distinguish them.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating